If you don’t know already, then this is the ideal opportunity to inform you that 7 of the ladies in S4TF are active participants in the BDSM lifestyle. Some of them are “switches”, however all of them are submissives (subs) under one single Dom/Master.
It is difficult for most people who aren’t into BDSM to understand the dynamics that go into the Dom/sub (Master/slave) relationship. One often thinks of chattel slavery when they hear the terms Master/slave. However, it is nothing like that at all.
It is important to keep in mind that first, and foremost, BDSM is a FETISH. It is role playing (at it’s lowest degrees), and a lifestyle (at it’s highest degrees). It is not different in that regard from people who have feet fetishes, or those who like to engage in ass-worship, or those who have any other types of fetishes. Fetishes manifest in a variety of ways, but what is most important to remember is that engaging in the dynamic brings sexual arousal to the participants; many times resulting in euphoria that is unmatched by traditional intimate encounters.
“I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE LEADER. I REFUSE TO BE THE LEADER. I WANT TO LIVE DARKLY AND RICHLY IN MY FEMALENESS. I WANT A MAN LYING OVER ME, ALWAYS OVER ME. HIS WILL, HIS PLEASURE, HIS DESIRE, HIS LIFE, HIS WORK, HIS SEXUALITY THE TOUCHSTONE, THE COMMAND, MY PIVOT. I DON’T MIND WORKING, HOLDING MY GROUND INTELLECTUALLY, ARTISTICALLY; BUT AS A WOMAN, OH, GOD, AS A WOMAN I WANT TO BE DOMINATED. I DON’T MIND BEING TOLD TO STAND ON MY OWN FEET, NOT TO CLING, BE ALL THAT I AM CAPABLE OF DOING, BUT I AM GOING TO BE PURSUED, FUCKED, POSSESSED BY THE WILL OF A MALE AT HIS TIME, HIS BIDDING.”
– Anaïs Nin
This quote mirrors what (literally) millions up millions of people (both male and female) desire in their relationships. Many can only tolerate a small degree of dominance (we refer to that as “vanilla”), while others can tolerate (and desire) what most people would identify as “extreme” in order for them to be truly fulfilled.
At the end of the day, if you are not familiar with BDSM then you probably have a misconception of what it entails; and the level of training, consideration and love that true practitioners experience in the lifestyle.
